Dear Kath: “I’m a white guy, and I have a crush on a very cute black woman in my class. I want to ask her out, but I know my parents wouldn’t be okay with me being in an interracial relationship. I don’t want to disappoint them, but I really like this girl and want to spend time with her. What should I do?”

Kath: My advice would be to make sure of your relationship with the woman before you confront your parents. Ask the girl out and get to know each other. A crush is not always permanent; your feelings could change.  A simple infatuation with someone is not worth a quarrel with your parents. However, if you do spend time together, and feelings develop, your parents should respect that. Let them know how you feel about the girl in a sincere and genuine way. Her race should not prevent you from dating someone you care about, despite what your parents might think. And in the end, if your parents still disapprove, follow your heart. If she makes you happy, then that is all that matters.  Do not let your parents’ conservative nature discourage you from pursuing relationships. They aren’t dating her; you are!