I will admit I’m a naive person; most of the time, regrettably
so. But really I think I just give other people too much
credit.

Let me explain. I always assumed that cheating was something
only a few people did, and even fewer got away with. Apparently I
stand corrected. It seems that the older we get, the more and more
people cheat, and even more surprisingly, the amount of people who
get away with it increases. What’s wrong with our society today
that people can’t stay loyal?

Cheating is wrong, no matter if it happens when one is drunk or
sober. But what actually constitutes cheating? For each couple this
is very different. Some people don’t mind a drunken kiss and some
people accept anything that happens when they’re drunk.

Regardless you’re still making an advance on a member of the
opposite sex and that’s not ok. And whoever first used the excuse
of alcohol successfully really did a disservice to the rest of us.
Alcohol lowers your inhibitions, so really when you’re drunk you do
what you would want to do when you’re sober. The bottom line is
that alcohol isn’t an excuse. And speaking of excuses, the whole
different area code thing doesn’t fly either. I don’t know where
that idea came from, but it’s ridiculous.

If it gets to that point, you really need to ask yourself why
you’re dating the person, because you obviously don’t like him or
her enough. When you date someone, it should be because you’re
crazy about him or her. Once the new relationship whirl-wind has
died down, you should be with them because you care about them. If
you’re out at night and thoughts of them don’t pass through your
head, something’s wrong. Of course, you’re going to have to face
temptation, and when you’re drunk it’s move difficult, but you
shouldn’t be tempted to the point where you actually act on it.
You’re either not thinking about the consequences–or don’t care
enough about them to not do it.

Cheating is a terrible way to end a relationship. It’s trading
one moment of pleasure for hours or days of misery for both you and
your significant other. Don’t get me wrong; I do believe in second
chances. We all make mistakes and sometimes we have too much fun.
But there have to be boundaries in a relationship. They are
established to protect you, and your pride. If you let someone run
all over you, your self-esteem will suffer.

And for those of you cheaters out there, you need to think, and
not only when you’re actually in the moment of temptation but
beforehand. Don’t end a relationship by cheating. If you ask me,
that’s a coward’s way out. Instead, break up in a civil manner. It
will spare both of you a lot of heartache. Besides, cheating can
destroy any chances of maintaining a friendship afterwards.

And to those of you who are trying to reclaim your ex after
cheating, good luck.