We all know what can happen at college parties. Boy and girl enjoy the company of friends, music and alcohol. We know what happens next: boy meets girl, boy and girl begin talking and make a love connection. After much anticipation, over the pulsating bass of blaring music, boy and girl kiss.

This isn’t unique to any particular institution. This happens every weekend at every school, from Saint Louis University to the University of Missouri to Iowa State University. Generally speaking, few students that I know have a problem with this. But that’s the operative word–students.

What do you say when boy and girl are at a party, but boy isn’t a college student? What if he’s a 47-year-old, representing another institution?

Iowa State’s basketball coach, Larry Eustachy, has been suspended with pay after photographs of him attending college parties and kissing female students on the cheek at Mizzou were published in The Des Moines Register.

The suspension was recommended by Iowa State University athletic director Bruce Van De Velde, who contended that Eustachy engaged in behavior that was inappropriate. Van De Velde has recommended that, in the best interest of the program, and the university Eustachy be fired from his $1 million coaching position.

Players on the team have supported their coach and believe he deserves a second chance. Eustachy has apologized, admitted that he has a problem with alcoholism and is seeking counseling. ESPN’s Dick Vitale agrees and is advocating the university to give Eustachy a second chance.

I think Eustachy is doing the right thing by admitting his actions were inappropriate and is seeking counseling for his alcoholism. But I do not think he should retain his position.

Eustachy was a representative of Iowa State University. He was, essentially, on a business trip as a representative of his employer. In any other business setting, this would not be tolerated. In many businesses, this situation would cross–if not obliterate–the fine line between inappropriate behavior and sexual misconduct.

Some argue that Van De Velde is pushing for Eustachy’s removal as strictly a business decision. Sure, business plays a big role here, but allow me to point out the obvious: He was a 47-year-old married man kissing and drinking with female college students. Call me what you will, but I think there’s something wrong with that, and what happened should be considered by university administrators.

Though Eustachy’s actions may not have been in direct violation of any university policy, they were flat out stupid and they crossed the line.

Here’s another way to think about it: You are a female college student. Would you really want some 47-year-old kissing you on the cheek? Or would that bother you just a bit? Or, you are a male college student. Your girlfriend or your younger sister is at a party and a 47-year-old kissed her. But wait, he said he made a mistake. So you should just forget about it.

Or should you? Others might argue that coaches, such as Bobby Knight who cross the line have historically been handled with kid gloves. But the fact that Knight was a winning coach and a big name allowed him to keep is job. So does that make it right?

Iowa State should consider what is in the best interest of the university and the program: fire Eustachy. Yes, it will break the team apart. That’s unfortunate. Yes, he admitted he has a problem and is getting help. That’s good. Really, I’m a very forgiving person. I understand that nobody in this world is perfect, and everyone makes mistakes.

However, if Iowa State administrators allow Eustachy to keep his job, they will convey the message that individuals in the athletic department are exempt from the general standard of what is acceptable in a work environment. Since Eustachy is a visible representative of the school, it would convey the notion that Iowa State University tolerates inappropriate behavior from its employees, which defeats the lessons learned in the university’s classrooms about business ethics and morality.

I believe in second chances, and I know that people can change, but I also know that there are some things that just should not be done. If they are done, they should not go unnoticed.